This is a real case where the therapist has serious ethical qualms and the client either has none or is minimizing.
The working assumption in relational ethics is that the client is having enough emotional distress to be in therapy. The focus here on this blog post is on the effects on the younger affair partners, which is the unique feature of this case, even though there is also harm to the spouse and probably to his adult children.
As for all cases, assume that the therapist is also exploring the psychological factors and significance for the individual client.
Relational Ethics teaches LEAP-C skills, which we will spell out below the case.
THE CASE
50-60 year old married male client having affairs with far younger women (17- early 20’s), especially when the younger partner displays signs of being trauma survivors or is just otherwise vulnerable.
Listen
Explore
Affirm
If the client has gone with you in this exploration, say that you appreciate how he is willing to look at the positive side of this relationships well as the negative sides for all concerned.