This is a common scenario in which a client has “had enough” of a parent and is considering ending all contact.
The client is processing this strictly in terms of whether this will reduce personal stress. From a relational ethics perspective, the therapist is also thinking about the impact on the parent and other family members who will inevitably become part of the family drama of a cut off relationship.
As for all cases, assume that the therapist is also exploring the psychological factors and significance for the individual client. The focus here will be on the relational ethics consultation part of the therapy.
Relational Ethics teaches LEAP-C skills, which I will spell out in light of the case.
THE CASE
35 year old woman whose divorced father has remarried and expects the client to engage with his “new family.” The client has experienced her father as a very negative, critical presence in her life since childhood. At a time when she is facing other life stresses that have brought her into therapy for treatment of anxiety, she sometimes feels it’s time to “walk away” from any relationship with her father. She has siblings and children of her own who are part of the relationship picture.
Listen
Explore
Affirm
Appreciate the emotional work the client is doing on this issue, including taking into account the other people involved.